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November 29th, 2010 at 01:25 pm

My brother died of a heart attack and it was instantaneous. That information gave some relief to my dad who had been thinking he might have lied on the floor for hours before dying. If you have to go, that is one of the better ways in my opinion. My brother was only 44, but he had abused his body for so many years it just couldn't take it any more. There was no alcohol in the house so maybe he had quit this last time around.

My parents, my sister and I went to his house yesterday for about 3 hours and started going thru paperwork and packing up things to donate or put in a garage sale or something. I had not been there in about 8 years, since he lives way out in the country. It's a modular home that was only 11 years old. It looked horrible, like it was 50 years old. Because he smokes the walls all had a thick yellow border where the nicotine accumulated. It was gross. He's been sick so the house was in bad shape. My dad has been supporting him for years. The house is only worth about $60K and that's if someone put in a lot of work to fix it up. I think it was $115K when he bought it and he added a double car garage. He still owes about $80K. Dad is just going to give it back to the bank to let them deal with it. The same with the credit cards where he owes around $24K. Any company that gives someone without any income credit cards kind of deserves to not get paid back.

My brother has been basically the same size for the last 30 years so he had tons of clothes. He never threw anything away. We probably packed up at least 150 shirts to give to the Rescue Mission. Some really nice jackets too. They will be happy. He was so small though, they might need to give the clothes to teen-agers. 125 - 135 was a good weight for him, but he frequently got much lower when he was sick.

I packed up the pantry and a double-wide closet of shirts and the paperwork from the desk. After that I was too tired to do any more. I'm still more tired that I would like and can't do anything for very long before I'm exhausted. I'm still taking 1 or 2 naps everyday, but I am getting better

Mom and I walked at Walmart this morning and I was able to complete the entire route for the first time, although much slower. Afterwards I was so tired I didn't know if I could even move. They had cans of Swanson chicken broth for .50. I got 12 cans and used 3 $1/4 coupons, making them .25 each. I spent $3. Actually mom and dad got them for me and carried them to the car and into the house. I was too tired.

I finished reading the library book The Valcourt Heiress by Catherine Coulter. Romance - ok.

12 Responses to “heart attack”

  1. momcents Says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself during this time.

  2. Aleta Says:

    I'm very sorry to hear of the loss of your brother. You've had more than your share to deal with lately. No time is a good time. I lost my Mom last Dec. It's good that you're getting your exercize but make sure that you get enough rest.

  3. HouseHopeful Says:

    I'm so sorry to hear about your brother.

  4. Ima saver Says:

    I am glad that he died so quickly. It was just his time. Get some rest.

  5. CB in the City Says:

    I'm so sorry. My brother died of a heart attack two years ago. He was 65, and he HAD been taking good care of himself. It was not instantaneous, but quick -- he was revived after the first attack and then passed away in the ambulance on the way to the hospital. My father died of a heart attack at age 69, so it runs in the family. An unfortunate legacy!

    I guess my point here is it can happen to anybody. I hope you don't ever feel that if you could have made him take better care of himself that this wouldn't have happened. You just never know.

    Take good care of yourself in this difficult time.

  6. NJDebbie Says:

    Take care of yourself. My Dad also died of sudden cardiac arrest and it was so devastating to us. ((HUGS))

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  8. Analise Says:

    I am very sorry to hear about your brother. This is an especially difficult time of year to lose a loved one. Please take care of yourself.

  9. campfrugal Says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with your family. Take Care.

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  11. scottish girl Says:

    I'm sorry for your loss.

  12. baselle Says:

    I am sorry for your losses. My thoughts are with you during this time. We suspect our dad also died of a heart attack while he was asleep. I found for myself that it was a wakeup call for my own health. Perhaps best way to grieve is to put meaning to it.

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